My husband and I are going to buy a minivan.  This is big.  Not the car itself, the fact that we are getting one.  OK, the van is big, too, but that is not the issue.  Who drives minivans?  Moms.  Mothers.  Hausfraus.  Ladies who have willingly subjugated their lives and bodies to their offspring.  As have I, but the minivan is the last symbol of wifery and mommyism for me to adopt.  I have held out as long as I could.  At one point in my life I swore I would never drive a minivan, but now, I must confess, I can hardly wait. 

It is so much easier to get three kids into and out of a minivan than it is a sedan.  I can seat them far enough apart so that little arms cannot reach across and grab a Happy Meal toy out of a sibling’s hand, or poke any available body part.  There is no problem fitting one car seat and two booster seats, and it is easy to buckle all three.  No squeezing my hand between child seats searching for the seat belt latch.  No struggling to lift a little body past the booster seat to the car seat in the middle.  Absolutely no possibility of the oldest child having to ride in the front seat because three child seats do not fit across the back.  Plenty of space, plenty of drink holders for everyone.

And why should I ever have objected?  After all, being a stay at home mom is what I always wanted, and I waited a long time to get here.  I love toting them to soccer, ice skating, and birthday parties.  I embrace my life as a mom.  I just don’t embrace looking like all the moms looked when I was a little kid.  You know, warm and loving, but kind of, well, sort of like yesterday’s lettuce; post-peak, you might say.  A little thick around the middle, just past the glow of youth.  That is exactly what I look like, but somehow the minivan has come to symbolize all this for me.  So I held out.  I put up with a too-small deteriorating old sedan for too long because it was not a minivan.  I couldn’t afford anything else, either, but that is beside the point.  I repeatedly insisted that when I had the money for a new car, I was going to buy a bigger, nicer sedan, not a minivan.  Any nerdy family car was OK as long as it was not a van. 

Of course logic tells me that although there may be a correlation between minivans and encroaching middle age, that does not indicate causality.  But logic is not involved here; this is emotional.  So let’s cut to the chase.  I am on the cusp of middle age.  Some would say I am already there.  I have born three children, and I look it.  No matter how hard I work out, I am never going to be the same woman who could wear allover Lycra and look good.  So if the minivan is some sort of personal rite of passage, bring it on.  I am ready to let go of all previous prejudices, and just be who I am.  Actually, I kind of like who I am.  And that person needs a new car that can handle a family of five. 

And let me tell ya, there are reasons why these lumbering boxcars are so popular, and it ain’t their good looks or great mileage.  It’s convenience, baby.  And when kids are around, that’s what it is all about.  That, and safety.  So I am going to get the whole shmeer.   Leather seats, 6 disc CD changer, subwoofer under the driver’s seat (I have no idea what this does except it has something to do with good sound), air deflector on the hood to keep road damage down, fenderwell trim to do the same, auto doors and power seat adjustments.  I am going to be a minivan mama.  Woooo hooo!  I have arrived!